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The true meaning of Christmas


At this time of year there is a sense of frenetic urgency to overspend and overindulge almost as if without excess Christmas would be neither festive nor joyful. I would like to remind everyone that Christmas is about the Christ. Whether you are atheist or agnostic, Christian or Muslim or Jewish or whatever, the derivative of the word 'Christmas' is 'Christ'.The 25th day of December is associated with the birth of Christ, the son of God who was born of a virgin mother. The resonance of the idea of a Christ being is both powerful and moving. This was a man made of flesh and bones like you and I, and who was chosen by God to suffer and die. In the story of Christ we are essentially reminded th...
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Portobello mushroom and meatball broth


I get home from work at around 6.30pm which doesn't leave a lot of time to make a wholesome meal. I have recently begun making broths- a cross between a hearty full throttle meat-and-two-vegs and a light soup- using meat from my organic boxes delivered once per week. I love these boxes where you never know what you're going to get and you have to be as creative and in tune as possible in order to make nourishing sustenance out of them. Last week I created a lamb and spinach broth and this week: pork meatballs and portobello mushrooms.The pork mince was so light that it moulded effortlessly into balls (never press or squeeze too hard or you'll end up with dead weights). A pinch of thyme, salt...
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On a clear day you can see forever...


...both metaphorically and if you open your eyes wide enough. This morning on my walk:Glorious Northamptonshire. Photo copyright SvD.Original link
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Questions for Cathy #13: Has There Been a Spike in Infidelity Due to Technology?

I’ve passed along info before re: infidelity and technology; perhaps the reason I continue to cover this topic is because it’s so widespread. Hopefully a word will be read, or an impression will be made, to help curb the incidences. I’ve not asked our resident LMFT, Cathy Chambliss, whether she’s experienced an upsurge in clients due to this issue. Overall, it seems to be wreaking havoc within some romantic relationships. Inquiring minds want to know: Has there been a spike in infidelity due to technology? Cathy: I don’t know if there has been a spike in infidelity due to technology, but more people are getting caught due to technology! The internet and cell phones h...
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A Christmas Story- if ever you're down, read this


This story was sent to me by my friend, Hardip Barot (in his own words):'I remember 3 years back bought one homeless guy free beers(!) and a bottle of wine with some dessert to go with it. To my surprise he gave me a gift of an expensive tie with tears in his eyes and said if I don't accept it, it will break his heart. Man, it touched me. He was all alone and thanked me for expressing kindness. I truly cherish that Christmas. I still have that tie. I dont wear it because it seems he must have stolen it from somewhere but looking at it, it reminds me of a cold Christmas night in Shoreditch..with only him on the road..at dawn..in tears and for me, Christmas was truly celebrated that night!!!''...
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My latest article on The Huffington Post


06 December 2016Photo copyright SvD.Original link
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A Story of Feathers


All taken on my walks and found as they lay. Photos copyright SvD.Original link
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Surviving Christmas On Your Own


This Christmas marriages will break up, old lovers will commit to one another, new lovers will find each other, families will argue, children will hate their presents, vegetarian guests will stick to spuds and sprouts, and granny will overdose on sherry. These people will all have something in common: each other. There is another side to Christmas that is overlooked: those who are alone. The elderly who have passed their use-by date, the divorced singletons who are persona non grata by virtue of being solo, the homeless, and those too impoverished to celebrate Christmas at all. Each of these people will feel desolate and unhappy on Christmas Day - please think of them.For those who are alone...
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Infidelity Holiday Help

It’s a well known fact, or so statistics claim, that infidelity during the holidays is common. Buying presents and trying to keep up with the Jones’ can create stress; office parties with alcohol flowing and flirtations growing, foster reckless behavior; resentments that build during the year may culminate with acting out; and all the feel good of the season may remind someone of what they don’t have, so they seek to find. These are just a few examples of what may prompt someone to be unfaithful during the “most wonderful time of the year”. Hopefully this will not be a part of your reality, but should you find yourself in a compromising or challenging situation, and if your mate is refusing ...
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Questions for Cathy #12: What are the Top Three Reasons for Infidelity?

I realize that limiting top reasons for cheating to three is simplistic (unfortunately, there are a multitude!), but I thought it would be easier to digest and perhaps make a reasonable impression–I can only hope. As a licensed Marriage and Family therapist, Cathy sees infidelity in many forms. Here’s the bite-sized version of my inquiry. I asked: What are the top three reasons for infidelity? Cathy: The top three reasons for infidelity based on my experience are:a. Unhappiness in the relationship and not having the skills to handle it, or make it better. Someone becomes so unhappy that they start to feel connected to another person .  b. Their spouse has checked out sexu...
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Fight or Flight: One Woman’s Story of Betrayal

This story was initially posted on ICN (Infidelity Counseling Network: http://infidelitycounselingnetwork.org. A highly valuable free call-in service for those affected by infidelity. Also listed in my Resource section). The story bears repeating. This woman experienced a rush of many emotions when she found out her husband cheated on her, with several partners. She also went into PI (private investigator) mode. Did any of it serve her? Did she choose to fight, or take flight? Her words may sound familiar. There is much to be learned here. Fight or Flight Six years and one week ago, I overheard my husband on his cell phone. He was speaking to a woman. It was Tue...
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Questions for Cathy #11: Why Do High Profile Women Stay with A Cheater?

We’ve all seen infidelity scandals in the headlines. High profile people fall by the wayside just like normal folk; infidelity, the great equalizer. Mr. Anthony Weiner for example: (such an unfortunate name, although he does take it seriously) has proven yet again, that he’s having a very difficult time keeping his urges in check. His wife left him this round, but what about the wives who stay? Women of great means and brains? I was asked this question by a curious woman. So, I consulted the ever knowledgeable Cathy Chambliss. I posed the question: Why do high profile women stay with men who cheat? Cathy: Sometimes high profile couples stay together when there is infideli...
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Infidelity and Boundaries

It would seem that a boundary has already been crossed if infidelity has been an issue within a relationship–true, that. But, what next? Do you accept your mate’s profuse promises, apologies and tears? Of course, it could go in the other direction: anger, defense, accusatory remarks. Either way, boundaries need to be set, even if you’re the one in the throes of emotional upheaval. You need to be able to sit in your sorrow and resentment without interference from your mate: boundary. You need to be allowed to get through the myriad of feelings that are bouncing off the walls. Your mate must respect that you can’t have a chat about his/her side of the story yet, or don’t want to list...
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